Lily Allen has opened up about her journey of “accepting pain” and how she may potentially get a tattoo in honour of that message following her split from David Harbour.
News of the couple’s separation after four years of marriage was reported earlier this month. Allen and Stranger Things actor Harbour began dating in 2019 after meeting on the dating app Raya and tied the knot in an intimate Las Vegas ceremony in September 2020.
Allen recently revealed that she went into a treatment centre to deal with her “emotional turmoil” after the spilt.
Now, speaking to co-host Miquita Oliver on the duo’s latest Miss Me? podcast episode, the ‘Smile’ hitmaker expressed her interest in getting a new tattoo that highlights the message of “accepting pain”. The inspiration came from her latest read which was on “self-compassion.”
“It really stood out for me and I might even get it as a tattoo, it was ‘suffering x pain = resistance’,” she told Oliver. She continued: “You have to sit with the pain and confront the pain and accept the pain.”
Allen added: “Love the pain, caress the pain, you got to be like ‘This is painful’ it’s OK for things to be painful and for you to feel pain, bat it away. If you’re batting it away, you’re resisting it and that is the cause of your actual suffering.”
The singer-songwriter previously took a temporary break from Miss Me? and other work commitments to focus on her mental health. “I’m really not in a good place,” Allen told co-host Miquita Oliver on an episode of the podcast last month. “I know I’ve been talking about it for months, but I’ve been spiralling and spiralling and spiralling, and it’s got out of control.”
The star said the only thing she could concentrate on was “the pain that I’m going through” amid then-unconfirmed reports that she had split from Harbour. Allen went on to tell listeners that she would be “going away” soon, and said fans wouldn’t hear from her for “a few weeks”.
However, she denied any speculation that she was going to rehab. “I’ve not relapsed,” she assured Oliver. The ‘LDN’ artist also said she was “not allowed” to use her phone where she was going.
Meanwhile, Allen and Oliver are set to bring their Miss Me? podcast to a live audience for the first time in March. In other news, Allen has revealed that she is “trying to manifest” getting a new album “out by the end of the year”.
